Do you have the courage to reveal your heart? Due to heartbreaking experiences we tend to protect our heart by subconsciously building a wall around it. If you imagine your heart surrounded by a wall of ice, the ice being frozen emotions, our relationship issues, both romantic and non-romantic, become more apparent. Every wall built to protect also divides. In our attempt to guard our heart we subconsciously keep people that we truly want to be close to at a distance.

To have a life that includes meaningful intimacy, we much find the courage to melt the ice wall and reveal our heart to the world. This terrifies many of us because it seems dangerously vulnerable, and based on our past wounds, we dare not expose it again. Fortunately exposing your heart does not mean to live without wisdom, boundaries, or discernment. It does mean you must take the initial first step to melt the wall. And it is the first step that is the hardest.

I remember something similar to this from my childhood. Born with congenital clubbed feet, I had two surgeries and spent many years of my early life in plaster casts. Often I was put in a cast for a period of six weeks. My leg-size and strength had diminished and the itching caused from the cotton wrapping beneath the plaster was nearly intolerable. In short, I couldn’t wait for the cast to come off. On the big day, the doctor would use a special electric saw, and after a few unpleasant minutes, I was liberated. But I have to tell you; my initial feeling of the cast removal was very unpleasant and a little scary. The saw sometimes hurt a little so the process itself was frightening to a small boy, and when my leg, having been heavily insulted for six weeks, was exposed to the air, it felt cold, raw, and vulnerable. My first feeling was I wanted to cover my leg again. I had to push past these feelings because in a little while my leg, though weaker, began to feel wonderful.

The process of revealing your heart might be a little painful, and the first feelings exposure to the world may feel cold, raw, and vulnerable. And then you are faced with a choice. You have to choose whether or not to put the wall back up. If you engage your courage and keep the wall down and you heart open, you will feel better than ever as you breathes new life force into it, and it is allowed to shine brighter into the world.

To Melt the Ice Wall:
• Begin a breathing regime that you do each day for ten minutes.
• Begin a Hatha Yoga practice four times a week and focus on postures that open the chest.
• Practice speaking about your emotions, especially love, in a direct way, telling your loved ones how you feel, and when people say they love you, never deflect it with jokes or space-fillers. Make eye contact, smile genuinely, and take it in.

Posted by: Max Strom

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